You know I love Tatum O’Neil. You know I worship Bob Forrest from Celebrity Rehab. Now my friends I’m going to confess my love for The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills so that we can talk about this Taylor abuse situation that was unravelled on Monday night’s episode.
For those of you not in the know, last night Camille Grammer (Kelsey’s ex) confronted Taylor Armstrong about her abuse allegations. Grammer said:
“We’ve been protecting you. Because we don’t say that he hits you. Because we don’t say that he broke your jaw, or that he beat you up and that he hits you. We don’t say that, but now, we’ve said it.”
Outside of the weird way this episode started with Taylor attempting to turn all the women against Lisa Vanderpump in the way that a group of sorority girls or freshman dorm mates might (i.e., We all think you suck! what do you have to say for yourself?), I think this episode did more for abused women than many us of will know.
Why don’t friends talk? Why don’t assistant football coaches talk? Family members? Because they’re afraid of breaking up a winning Penn State football institution, or they’re afraid of breaking up a sham of a marriage? Because they don’t want to rock the boat? They don’t want to be the one dropping the bomb. But the bomb’s already been dropped, hasn’t it?
Either way, Camille Grammer, who seemed emotionally on edge when she was delivering her speech as well as incredibly sincere when she broke the news. She couldn’t, she wouldn’t, hide it anymore. And there, you have it. You’re being abused. You need help. You must do something about it. Now, there’s all sorts of banter on the internet discussing the validity of Taylor’s story. Was she kicked by her daughter? Is she just a con woman? Was she angling for a better divorce agreement? If her friends didn’t believe it about the abuse, why should we?
I’m going to chose not to focus on Taylor, okay, because Taylor comes with a mess of problems that are too sad, too disturbing, too questionable. I’m going to concentrate on Camille. Her words were a call to action. Were they not? Finally, we saw a turning point on this damn show! Women addressing issues of abuse. (Of course, we all know that it wasn’t a turning point at all, because we know exactly what happens to Taylor’s husband.) Yet there’s a powerful message to be had from Camille Grammer’s confrontation. Maybe one that resonates to others for even if only a short period of time? Or maybe I’m just an optimistic fool. Maybe the evil empire of Bravo Andy will send me a thank you note for doing exactly what he hoped… help abused women by airing the truths of the situation. Oh yeah, right. That was Bravo Andy’s intention. Oh Bravo, with your vicious story lines putting Susan Lucci out of work when you can get Lisa Vanderpump for a quarter of the price.
Let’s just say for the sake of argument that last night’s Real Housewives of Beverly Hills had a moment of clarity. That it was a call to action about stopping the shame of abuse. And I was glad to witness it.