Slut, Ho, Hoochie, Loose, Skank and Other Slut-Shaming Words Used to Denigrate Women & Girls

Posted on December 5, 2011 by

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Teenage girls slut-shaming

Just last week, Jezebel (via LiveScience ) discussed the slut issue again, this time asking the question why the word slut remains the “nuclear bomb of teenage insults.”

Cornell University’s Ritch Savin-Williams said,

Recent research is showing that it’s not their sexuality that’s getting them bullied, but their gender expressions. It’s that they transgress those gender roles that we have established. … It’s not like they’re saying, ‘Oh, you’re having sex with another girl.’ That’s not what they’re picking up on. What they’re picking up on is, ‘You’re not acting like a girl is supposed to act.

As Jez writer Erin Gloria Ryan explains, it’s not the idea of a girl acting “abnormally hypersexual” or not (because girls who are not sexually active can be tagged with the term “slut” as well)– it’s about wether or not she’s fitting into the definition of how a teenage girl is supposed to act.

It reminded me about a good old fashioned slut-shaming conversation a friend and I had the other day. The friend informed me that one of my babysitters has become known for giving good blow jobs around town. “Good blow jobs?” I said. “There are worse things to be known for. You could be known for giving bad blow jobs!

All kidding aside, who cares if my babysitter is giving blow jobs? She’s 16. Hopefully she’s making the right choices about which boys are receiving this gift from her. But her parents are well-educated thoughtful parents. I’m certain they’ve had the sex and safety discussion with her.

I fear that my friend–a woman I respect on all other issues except this one–didn’t pass this information to me because she was concerned my babysitter was going to catch a sexually transmitted disease. Instead, my friend’s gossip perpetuated exactly what LiveScience writer Stephanie Pappas discussed in the above-mentioned article. My babysitter was not acting “like girls are supposed to act” therefore there’s outrage. There’s social finger-wagging. Oral sex. Bad girl. Get back in line. After all, you’re not supposed to be doling out blow jobs in high school. No. That’s just for college.

My question is, and this is the same question I’d propose to my own children: Why are you concerned about what other people are doing with their bodies? It’s not up to you how they’re supposed to act. It’s up to them.

Online Slang Dictionary gives us the pleasure of 48 derogatory words used to refer to sexually active women. Maybe we should test the waters with all of these words, encouraging our daughters and sons to use them freely and loudly around the house for given periods of time–just like Miri encouraged her kids to scream curse words in her minivan. Might this de-stigmatize the word if we yelled “chicken head” 17 times at dinner? You be the judge.

  1. 304 –
  2. bird –
  3. booby –
  4. breezy –
  5. chank –
  6. chicken head –
  7. cum dumpster –
  8. freaky –
  9. fuckbunny –
  10. garden tool –
  11. hater –
  12. hockey whore –
  13. hoe –
  14. hoebag –
  15. hooch –
  16. hoochie –
  17. Jenny McCarthy –
  18. jumpoff –
  19. loose –
  20. manwhore –
  21. Pebbles –
  22. pig –
  23. pigeon –
  24. player hate –
  25. player hater –
  26. prostitot –
  27. puck bunny –
  28. rat –
  29. ripper –
  30. runner –
  31. sausage jockey –
  32. skank –
  33. skeevy ho –
  34. skeezy ho –
  35. sketell –
  36. sko –
  37. slag –
  38. sleep around –
  39. slitch –
  40. slore –
  41. slunt –
  42. slut –
  43. slutty –
  44. sorostitute –
  45. tart –
  46. tramp –
  47. whore –
  48. whoremonkey

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