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Hattie Kauffman: Overcoming Divorce In ‘Falling Into Place’

November 20, 2013

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  Will Miriam and Hayley ever tire of divorce? Will they ever stop writing about their tiresome divorces? Probably not. In fact, as part of  Hayley’s recent divorce self help post, I’ve just had the privilege of reading a new book by former news anchor, Hattie Kauffman, Falling into Place: A Memoir of Overcoming. Overcoming […]

This Is Your Self-Help Divorce Post

November 7, 2013


At least once a month, people ask me for the best information regarding divorce or co-parenting. The best advice I can give you is to strangle your ex. KIDDING. The best advice I can give you is what someone once gave me: “Love your kids more than you hate your ex.” Here is a list […]

I Did: Wedding Season

April 28, 2013


  It’s that time of year, when the lilacs bloom, the sun shines longer and weddings happen. Weddings are lovely, but it’s really the years after the event that make up the ‘event’. Yesterday, my office hours were spent listening to clients whose lives were either in the middle of divorcing, separating, marrying or waiting to […]

Betray Not Thyself

February 11, 2013


    In the NYT’s section, Modern Love, Caroline Leavitt, summarized her come to tortoise-Buddha experience with dating. She chose time by herself over time spent contorting herself, AKA betrayal of self, into a desirable partner. She opted out, and welcomed in, Minne, the tortoise: Every night I would take Minnie out of the tank […]

The Holiday Card As Family Photograph

December 16, 2012


I sent adorable holiday cards for years. My friend Gina would come over and take pictures of my  kids snuggling like Care Bears. Then I began grabbing candid pictures of them, one’s I thought more accurately depicted their relationship. One year they were covered in mud. I was in charge of the holiday card sending […]

Thanksgiving Drama: The Overcooked Turkey, The Vegetarian And The Emails

November 19, 2012


Though I’ve been a vegetarian since I was about 10, and have no interest in eating turkey whatsoever, I’ve always wanted to host Thanskgiving at my house. And since my sister-in-law, who usually hosts a beautiful Thanksgiving every year, called it quits on the holiday–after being out of power for almost two weeks, she and […]

Birthday Wishes: Seventy-Three

September 23, 2012


  My mother turned seventy-three years old on Saturday. My kids and I drove up to New Hampshire, to the house she lives in with my step-father, who has been a great dad-like-guy for over twenty-five years. He’s watched us all grow from wobbly, extremely young adults into middle-aged people cluttering up his house. He’s […]

Maybe Katie’s Not Such A Victim, But Suri Certainly Is

July 23, 2012


Remember how I wrote this about Katie being a victim of a cult? I’m possibly reneging. According to an interesting new article in New York Magazine breaking down the marriage of what used to be TomKat, Benjamin Wallace theorizes that Katie Holmes wasn’t necessarily brainwashed by Tom Cruise, but instead was brainwashed by fame. One […]

Tom & Katie: Scientology Sounds A Lot Like An Abusive Relationship

July 3, 2012


I see the similarities between Katie Holmes extracting herself from Tom Cruise and the Church of Scientology and an abusive relationship. There’s the paranoia, the insistence of constant reaffirmation of love, the reports that she had to rent a new apartment first without telling him just to get out, the controlling decisions made by the […]

Dysfunctional Family: 102

June 3, 2012


Here’s the question: Which came first, estrangement from our dad, or our stepmother? I have a complex guess. But instead of guessing I’m going to stay with the facts. Distance and a sense that we were interrupting a mid-life love affair, were problems. We, my sister and I, had a hard time finding a way […]