It’s that time of year, when the lilacs bloom, the sun shines longer and weddings happen. Weddings are lovely, but it’s really the years after the event that make up the ‘event’. Yesterday, my office hours were spent listening to clients whose lives were either in the middle of divorcing, separating, marrying or waiting to [...]
February 11, 2013
In the NYT’s section, Modern Love, Caroline Leavitt, summarized her come to tortoise-Buddha experience with dating. She chose time by herself over time spent contorting herself, AKA betrayal of self, into a desirable partner. She opted out, and welcomed in, Minne, the tortoise: Every night I would take Minnie out of the tank [...]
December 16, 2012
I sent adorable holiday cards for years. My friend Gina would come over and take pictures of my kids snuggling like Care Bears. Then I began grabbing candid pictures of them, one’s I thought more accurately depicted their relationship. One year they were covered in mud. I was in charge of the holiday card sending [...]
November 19, 2012
Though I’ve been a vegetarian since I was about 10, and have no interest in eating turkey whatsoever, I’ve always wanted to host Thanskgiving at my house. And since my sister-in-law, who usually hosts a beautiful Thanksgiving every year, called it quits on the holiday–after being out of power for almost two weeks, she and [...]
September 23, 2012
My mother turned seventy-three years old on Saturday. My kids and I drove up to New Hampshire, to the house she lives in with my step-father, who has been a great dad-like-guy for over twenty-five years. He’s watched us all grow from wobbly, extremely young adults into middle-aged people cluttering up his house. He’s [...]
July 23, 2012
Remember how I wrote this about Katie being a victim of a cult? I’m possibly reneging. According to an interesting new article in New York Magazine breaking down the marriage of what used to be TomKat, Benjamin Wallace theorizes that Katie Holmes wasn’t necessarily brainwashed by Tom Cruise, but instead was brainwashed by fame. One [...]
July 3, 2012
I see the similarities between Katie Holmes extracting herself from Tom Cruise and the Church of Scientology and an abusive relationship. There’s the paranoia, the insistence of constant reaffirmation of love, the reports that she had to rent a new apartment first without telling him just to get out, the controlling decisions made by the [...]
June 3, 2012
Here’s the question: Which came first, estrangement from our dad, or our stepmother? I have a complex guess. But instead of guessing I’m going to stay with the facts. Distance and a sense that we were interrupting a mid-life love affair, were problems. We, my sister and I, had a hard time finding a way [...]
April 5, 2012
There are plenty of topics I could spend my time writing about: health care, abortion rights or Santorum and Romney and the dismal race? How can I write such drivel when the world is boiling over with troubles? Trayvon, Korean school shooting or Iraqi’s itchy fingered bomb mongers. But when I sit down whatever is lurking [...]
February 28, 2012
The other day my daughter and her friends were talking about what they would be when they grew up (surgeon, teacher, geneticist, dancer, photographer), where they would live (Boston, California, England) and how many children they’d have (three was the average). Part of growing up is imagining your future. The girls lined up their anticipated [...]
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