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The Worst: Mammograms

January 26, 2015

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1. Your breast is shoved on top of a cold plastic plate. 2. Your breast isn’t sitting on the plate the right way, so the technician pulls your breast so that it’s at the right angle. She turns the machine. And your breast goes with it. 3. Your breast is finally in the right spot, and […]

Million Little Gang Rapes

December 8, 2014


      Remember when James Frey, who wrote Million Little Pieces, about his addiction and all the horrifying details, remember when Oprah called him out? I do. I loved that book, I believed every last sentence. When he was exposed as a big old yarn-spinner, I felt a little sorry for him. After all, confabulation […]

The Misogynist Terrorism Of Anita Sarkeesian

October 16, 2014

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The other day my sister-in-law texted me “people online are really mean.” She was referring to this article I wrote for Salon (I’m writing daily for them for the next two weeks–please check out my work over there!) “Oh, I stopped reading comments long ago,” I told her. “But Hayley, they found a picture of […]

Rethinking The Grudge

July 20, 2014


Women in my family are kind, generous, perceptive and forgiving. Turns out, we’re not. Women in my family hold grudges. When polling the women in my brood, I found we are all prickly, easily insulted and quick to dismiss a person who has crossed us. A person doesn’t have to do much. They can make us […]

Sexism in Big Newspapers and Little Newspapers

May 15, 2014

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In 1998, I won a first place award for “Best Entertainment Writing” from the New Jersey Press Association for this article. It was the first “first place” award that the weekly paper had seen in years. Before mine, there was one lonely plaque hanging up on the wall. When you win an award, they want […]

No Sugar, No Flour, Bye, Bye Esmeralda

February 18, 2014


    I’ve named her Esmeralda. I’ve named her, because she’s cute. She warm, she’s soft and she knows how to have fun and eat like a barbarian. She didn’t bother me much until she bothered my doctor. My blood pressure was so high I was put in a dark room to relax. I had just […]

A Gwyneth Paltrow 12-Step

January 31, 2014


1. When people ask the question, “Why does everyone hate Gwyneth Paltrow?” explain that for you, it started after you read a Vogue cover story on her perfect life with Brad Pitt and their dogs. It was then that you realized she embodied Emma as in Jane Austen’s Emma and then made it worse by […]

You Can Be A Successful Woman and Not Be Considered A Bitch, Says Ann Friedman

January 10, 2014

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Do you think women women can be successful without being considered a bitch? This is the idea that New York columnist and all-around-awesome writer Ann Friedman discusses at The Cut today. She answers her own question–giving an enthusiastic, yes, and points to Jenna Lyons, the president of J.Crew. The one who started the geeky glasses […]

First Annual Christmas List Of Misandry Gifts

December 5, 2013

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The “I hate men” complaint is nothing new (and has long been embraced by men’s groups), but recently it’s been embraced by young feminists who are gettin’ all misandry-inspired. (For those of you who don’t know, misandry is the opposite of misogyny. Otherwise known as the hatred of men.) When I wrote about misandry crafts […]

Oh, God. I’m Old Enough To Wear Eileen Fisher.

October 10, 2013


In the New Yorker a few weeks ago, Janet Malcom wrote about the iconic clothes of Eileen Fisher, saying, “There is a wish shared by women who consider themselves serious that the clothes they wear look as if they were heedlessly flung on rather than anxiously selected. The clothes of Eileen Fisher seem to have […]