Migrant Children Flood Border, How Do We Protect Them?

July 9, 2014


NOGALES, AZ - JUNE 18:  Two young girls watch a World Cup soccer match on a television from their holding area where hundreds of mostly Central American immigrant children are being processed and held at the U.S. Customs and Border Protection Nogales Placement Center on June 18, 2014, in Nogales, Arizona.  Brownsville, Texas, and Nogales, have been central to processing the more than 47,000 unaccompanied children who have entered the country illegally since Oct. 1. (Photo by Ross D. Franklin-Pool/Getty Images)

My son doesn’t know how to do his own laundry. He doesn’t know how to make his own dinner. He’s 10 years old. He’s about the same age as the thousands of children who have crossed the border into the US over the past year in hopes to find refuge from gangs, from poverty, from [...]

Posted in: Child Migrants, Kids

Men Have a Sense of Humor–Unless Women Are Telling Joke

July 2, 2014


Maya Petersen's selfie on Instagram that prompted her resignation.

We are used to high school boys posting cruel, abusive photos on social media. We’ve seen star athletes turn rape into twisted comedy events on Twitter. We’ve seen men use social media to make lists (e.g., the Thot List) to harass women. We’ve seen revenge porn sites. But when senior high school president Maya Peterson instagrammed a photo of herself in a [...]

A Lesson About Body Image In Booty Songs

June 20, 2014


baby's got back

While driving with my 10 and 5-year-old kids to my sister-in-law’s on Long Island through sluggish traffic on the Cross Island Parkway, I succumbed to their requests to hear the “Wiggle” song (“Your booty like two planets, Go ahead and go ham sandwich”) by Jason Derulo and Snoop Dogg. My kids danced and sang to [...]

Posted in: Body Image, Kids

Sex Education on Sister Wives

June 16, 2014



Kody, the father on Sister Wives, a man with four wives,wants his kids to abstain from sex. He employs unique fear tactics: kissing transfers hormones that will lead to nothing other than heartache because kissing will convince you are in love and you are not, but you will think you are. Also, kissing as a teenager [...]

Posted in: kissing dangers

Angelina Jolie and Writer Linda Woolverton Admit Maleficent Has Rape Scene

June 12, 2014



During her Global Summit on Sexual Violence Angelina Jolie said: “We were very conscious, the writer [Linda Woolverton] and I, that [the scene in Maleficent] was a metaphor for rape.”   For those of you who came to Femamom because you read my article on the wing-ripping scene in Maleficent on the Huffington Post and you related to it on one level [...]

Posted in: Abuse, Rape Culture

The Creepy Coach in Palo Alto

June 11, 2014



                                                  Palo Alto is a film based on a series of short stories by James Franco. The stories are heartbreaking teenage stories, they are typical and painful and they are lonely. [...]

Reading YA Books As An Adult

June 10, 2014



According to Ruth Graham of Slate, you should not be reading YA books. Graham argued last week that adults ought to be ashamed of reading young adult literature, who knows, maybe she’s right. Maybe we’re supposed to read everything Hemingway. Or everything Eudora Welty or Flannery O’Connor. But whether you’re writing for a YA audience or you’re writing [...]

Posted in: Books

The Maleficent Rape Scene That We Need To Talk About

June 4, 2014



Imagine you’re drugged by someone you thought you trusted. You wake up in the morning with your face down in the dirt. You’re aching. Your appearance has changed and you can feel that you’re different as you try to stand through the pain. Beyond the physicality of it, your power was stolen from you. Your [...]

Posted in: Rape Culture

The Abortion Game

May 22, 2014


Abortion barbie

“It’s hard to imagine why women don’t want to get into politics,” wrote journalist and political activist Jessica Luther on Twitter yesterday along with this photo. It’s hard to imagine why women would want to subject themselves to the kind of disgusting politics–but this is exactly what the “pro-life” people want you to believe. This [...]

Sexism in Big Newspapers and Little Newspapers

May 15, 2014


Jill Abramson

In 1998, I won a first place award for “Best Entertainment Writing” from the New Jersey Press Association for this article. It was the first “first place” award that the weekly paper had seen in years. Before mine, there was one lonely plaque hanging up on the wall. When you win an award, they want [...]

Posted in: Women, work