I Was Ready For My Kids To Go Back To School–And Then They Left

September 4, 2014


first day kindergarten photo

Tell friends you’re totally not nervous at all for the first day of school. This is about your kids. Not you. Your sister in law asks, “Do you have your camera ready?” You’re like, “Why do I need a camera? It’s the first day of school. We have like 300 more days exactly like this [...]

Posted in: Kids

7 Feminist Conversations We Should Have To Wrap Up The Summer

September 2, 2014


Feminist and columnist Jessica Valenti shows how misandry is done in her "I bathe in male tears" (image: Jessica Valenti's twitter)

1. We have a police brutality issue in our country. Black men and boys are targets. Black parents are already having, and have had, that “talk” with their kids about how to avoid getting shot by police. How do we deal with this? How does this cycle end? 2. Instead of obsessing over Jennifer Aniston’s [...]

My Hair Has Never Looked Better–And I’m Addicted To The Kim Kardashian Game

July 29, 2014


Me in LA meeting with Kim's stylist. Doesn't my hair look terrific?

I’m completely addicted to the Kim Kardashian: Hollywood game. I think I lost my mind. How cute is my hair? First, you should know that I’m not a gamer. But this game feeds your ego and draws on your competitive nature. I WANT to get to the next level successfully. With Kim’s approval. Listen to [...]

Rethinking The Grudge

July 20, 2014



Women in my family are kind, generous, perceptive and forgiving. Turns out, we’re not. Women in my family hold grudges. When polling the women in my brood, I found we are all prickly, easily insulted and quick to dismiss a person who has crossed us. A person doesn’t have to do much. They can make us [...]

Migrant Children Flood Border, How Do We Protect Them?

July 9, 2014


NOGALES, AZ - JUNE 18:  Two young girls watch a World Cup soccer match on a television from their holding area where hundreds of mostly Central American immigrant children are being processed and held at the U.S. Customs and Border Protection Nogales Placement Center on June 18, 2014, in Nogales, Arizona.  Brownsville, Texas, and Nogales, have been central to processing the more than 47,000 unaccompanied children who have entered the country illegally since Oct. 1. (Photo by Ross D. Franklin-Pool/Getty Images)

My son doesn’t know how to do his own laundry. He doesn’t know how to make his own dinner. He’s 10 years old. He’s about the same age as the thousands of children who have crossed the border into the US over the past year in hopes to find refuge from gangs, from poverty, from [...]

Posted in: Child Migrants, Kids

Men Have a Sense of Humor–Unless Women Are Telling Joke

July 2, 2014


Maya Petersen's selfie on Instagram that prompted her resignation.

We are used to high school boys posting cruel, abusive photos on social media. We’ve seen star athletes turn rape into twisted comedy events on Twitter. We’ve seen men use social media to make lists (e.g., the Thot List) to harass women. We’ve seen revenge porn sites. But when senior high school president Maya Peterson instagrammed a photo of herself in a [...]

A Lesson About Body Image In Booty Songs

June 20, 2014


baby's got back

While driving with my 10 and 5-year-old kids to my sister-in-law’s on Long Island through sluggish traffic on the Cross Island Parkway, I succumbed to their requests to hear the “Wiggle” song (“Your booty like two planets, Go ahead and go ham sandwich”) by Jason Derulo and Snoop Dogg. My kids danced and sang to [...]

Posted in: Body Image, Kids

Sex Education on Sister Wives

June 16, 2014



Kody, the father on Sister Wives, a man with four wives,wants his kids to abstain from sex. He employs unique fear tactics: kissing transfers hormones that will lead to nothing other than heartache because kissing will convince you are in love and you are not, but you will think you are. Also, kissing as a teenager [...]

Posted in: kissing dangers

Angelina Jolie and Writer Linda Woolverton Admit Maleficent Has Rape Scene

June 12, 2014



During her Global Summit on Sexual Violence Angelina Jolie said: “We were very conscious, the writer [Linda Woolverton] and I, that [the scene in Maleficent] was a metaphor for rape.”   For those of you who came to Femamom because you read my article on the wing-ripping scene in Maleficent on the Huffington Post and you related to it on one level [...]

Posted in: Abuse, Rape Culture

The Creepy Coach in Palo Alto

June 11, 2014



                                                  Palo Alto is a film based on a series of short stories by James Franco. The stories are heartbreaking teenage stories, they are typical and painful and they are lonely. [...]